Here are tips on how to find the answers youre looking for

Here are tips on how to find the answers youre looking forHere are tips on how to find the answers youre looking forWhen Im searching for solutions, the last thing I want to hear isAh, but you have everything you need.Not because theyre annoying. Not because the advice is trope-y. Not because it feels unhelpful. But mainly because theyre normally totally right. And I dont want to hear it. Because it doesnt FEEL like I have what I need.Especially when what I think I need is answersAnswers to where this is all going.Answers to why it all happened.Answers to what to do next.Answers to if it will work out.Answers to if I want it to.Answers to what Im feeling.Answers to what to do now. Next.Answers to if I did it right.Answers to if Im doing it wrong.Answers to if any of this even matters.Were pretty conditioned to look elsewhere for whatever were searching for. To ask other people. How many times have you called a girlfriend and asked, What do you think I should do? Ive personally made t hat call more times than I can count searching mostly for the answer that I want to hear.The one I already know in my gut is the answer.SeeOften, we do in fact have our answers. What we need isnt someone to tell us its so. Its someone to come along and ask us the right question the question that will get us to our own answer.Soif youre looking for answers, stop searching outside of yourself. You have them. And until you realize that, look for the people who ask you the questions that lead you there.Rather than the people who tell you what you do (or dont) want to hear.And remember, theres no right or wrong. Theres answers we learn from. Answers we grow from. And answers wed never answer with again.This article originally appeared on Maxie McCoy.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivit yThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people